Real self-care

Hey everyone! My name is Sofia and I haven't been caring about myself for far too long. What about you? Do you care about yourself?

Okay, let me explain. So, self-care has been highly popular lately, which is something really cool. I'm all about that self-love, especially since Valentine's Day is approaching. But I've come to realize that the self-care that is promoted on social media; all those aesthetic face masks and bath bombs, is simply superficial.

Don't get me wrong, I love face masks, doing my skincare routine, and all that jazz, but now, especially since I started going to therapy a couple years ago, I understand what real self-care is.

Real self-care might look like sleeping a couple more hours during the weekend, instead of staying up all night watching a tv series, cause you're sleep deprived and you need to rest. It could even be crying for a couple of hours, because you need to let your emotions out. It can be not wearing makeup for a while to let your skin breathe. It can be something as simple as brushing your teeth.

Also, self-care is hard. Sometimes, it's doing the very thing you've been putting off, like putting away the clothes that have been sitting on a chair for a week, or going to the doctor for a check-up. Self-care could also be finally letting go of people who haven't been kind to you, like a friend who has done you wrong and refuses to apologize or change, or maybe breaking up with your boyfriend/girlfriend, if you feel like your relationship isn't working out (I do suggest you talk about your issues first, of course, cause maybe you can resolve them together).

Change is scary, believe me, I know, but you can do it! Think about how good you'll feel after you do these hard things! They're probably taking so much space in your brain and maybe they're making you feel a little anxious.

Of course, I'm not telling you that aesthetic self-care like face masks and bath bombs is inherently bad. If it makes you feel good, you should absolutely do a face mask! What I'm saying is that you need to do a deeper form of self-care too. And this Valentine's Day, whether you're taken, single, or something in between, don't forget to love yourself too! Well, obviously you should always love yourself, but on February 14th you should love yourself even harder.

Remember, you are loved. I'm glad you're here, whoever you are.